There is a moment many parents never talk about publicly.

It is the moment after the parenting course.
After the attachment therapy.
After the trauma therapy.
After the medication trials.
After the behaviour charts.
After the rewards and consequences.

It is the moment when the professionals leave the room and the family is still living in it.

And the child is still struggling.

And the aggression still happens.

And the siblings are still scared.

And the parents are exhausted.

I have sat with too many families in that moment.

Families who have done everything “right.”
Families who understand trauma.
Families who understand attachment.
Families who have read the books.

And still — they are living in chronic crisis.

That is often when Nonviolent Resistance enters the conversation.

When the Question Changes

Most approaches begin with:
How do we fix the child?

NVR begins somewhere else.

It asks:
How do we strengthen the parents?
How do we reduce isolation?
How do we restore safety for everyone in the home?
How do we build community around this family?

And perhaps the hardest question of all:

What do we do if the child does not get better in the way we hoped?

Because for many families of children with brain-based disabilities — FASD, prenatal substance exposure, complex developmental trauma, neurodevelopmental differences — “getting better” may not look like what professionals once promised.

If we build an intervention entirely around the child’s improvement, what happens to the family if that improvement is partial? Or slow? Or different than expected?

NVR does something radical.

It shifts the focus from symptom elimination to relational and systemic resilience.

Family-Centred, Not Child-Fixing

In the NVR model I have adapted for brain-based disabilities, we do not ignore trauma.

We do not ignore attachment.

We do not ignore neurobiology.

We integrate them.

But we also recognize something many families quietly know:
the trauma has not only affected the child.

Parents are carrying trauma too.
Siblings are impacted.
Couples are strained.
Extended family may have stepped back.

When aggression enters a home, it reorganizes the nervous systems of everyone.

So we ask:

What does safety look like for each family member?
How do we reduce accommodation patterns that are slowly destroying parental wellbeing?

How do we rebuild dignity and presence for caregivers?

NVR is not about controlling the child.
It is about restoring parental presence and reducing isolation.

The Power of Community

One of the most healing elements of NVR is not a technique.

It is the network.

When parents stop managing alone.
When they invite support in.
When they speak openly about aggression without shame.
When secrecy dissolves.

For families who have felt judged, blamed, or misunderstood — this is often the turning point.

And they do not have to do it alone.

Thinking Differently About “Success”

Sometimes NVR reduces aggression significantly.

Sometimes it stabilizes crises.

Sometimes it creates enough predictability that siblings can breathe again.

And sometimes — the child continues to struggle profoundly.

But the family is no longer collapsing around it.

That matters.

In my work with brain-based disabilities, I have come to believe that our definition of success must expand.

Success is not always the disappearance of aggression.

Sometimes success is:

• Parents no longer living in fear.
  • Siblings feeling seen and protected.
  • Couples reconnecting.
  • Caregivers reclaiming parts of themselves they had buried.
  • A community that holds the family instead of judging it.

Why I Built This Certification

I built the NVR Certification for Brain-Based Disabilities because I kept meeting clinicians who were trained in trauma and attachment — and still felt unprepared when aggression persisted.

I wanted to create a space where we could:

• Hold neurobiology and dignity at the same time.
  • Address accommodation without shaming caregivers.
  • Recognize parental trauma without pathologizing it.
  • Focus on the wellbeing of the entire family system.
  • Build community as a clinical intervention.

This is not a quick fix model.

It is a model for when families are tired of being told to just “try harder” or “be more consistent.”

It is a model for when we need to think differently.

If nothing else has worked, perhaps the question is not:

“What else should we try on the child?”

Perhaps the question is:

“How do we strengthen the entire system so it can survive, adapt, and remain connected — even when the child continues to struggle?”

That is the heart of NVR.

And that is why I chose to build this program.

Here is the link if you want to join me in this adventure! https://www.maudechampagne.com/offers/gFNosZGB/checkout